Despite the fact that I'm not yet married, I'm going to wax intellectual on something I know little about. That is what the blogosphere is for, isn't it?
Anyway there seems to be two related memes that really will kill a marriage.
- Not getting to know your mate before you get married
- Unwillingness to accept your spouse for who they are
- Unwillingness to change
I just don't understand some people. Isn't marriage about wanting to spend your life with someone? Before you make that commitment shouldn't you (a) find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and (b) be willing to make the sacrifices necessary to spend the rest of your life with that person without "growing apart".
UPDATE: On a slightly different marital note, a conversation with a coworker leads me to believe that you know the honeymoon is over if....
You'd rather sleep five more minutes than shower with the wife.
UPDATE2: Hehe. He just read this and is blushing like crazy. I love terrorizing my coworkers...